Wedding Ceremony Customs - Including The Father of The Bride and The Father of The Groom In The Wedding Ceremony

June 21st 2009 – Happy Father’s Day – Including Dad In the Wedding Ceremony – The Clergy Network of Southern California - Example - Multicultural Wedding in Los Angeles, California

Wedding Tradition should include the father of the bride and the father of the groom. If the relationship between the bride and her father, and that of the groom and his father are favourable, there a many ways in which to provide a more active role to the same. As a wedding ceremony officiator I have often included the fathers in the wedding ceremony, either during the writing of the ceremony, or in the ceremony itself. Let’s look at one recent Clergy Network ceremony which included Dr. Linda of AskDr.Linda, a TCN wedding officiator presided:

Pre- Wedding Ceremony Scenario- The bride was from the Philippines and the groom was Russian. In this custom written Clergy Network wedding ceremony text, Dr. Linda, in conjunction with the bride and groom, wrote a “Welcome to the Guests” in English, which was then translated into Tagala and Russian.

Wedding Day - On the ceremony day, Dr. Linda, the father of the groom and the father of the bride walked down the ceremony aisle together. Rising to the ceremony area in unison, Dr. Linda “welcomed” the guests in English. Then the groom’s father in Russian, followed by the father of the bride in Tagalla. At the end all shook hands; Dr. Linda remained in her ceremony position. The father of the groom was seated. The father of the bride walked back to join his daughter for her entrance, to be soon after the wedding party’s procession.

Conclusion – Such a simple suggestion is rather profound, as it is not often included in the wedding ceremony. Whether there are several native languages represented through the respective families of the bride and groom, or not, there is no mandatory wedding day tradition for which the father of the groom and/or the father of the bride are to be precluded from verbal participation. If the father of the bride and/or groom is not given to public speech, even these “welcomes” can be pre-recorded and then played by a D.J. at the start of the wedding ceremony.

In short, the fathers’ may write the “welcome” which may be read by the wedding officiator or another, or write and read a “welcome to the guests”. This unexpected personal greeting from the fathers’, at the “start” of the marriage ceremony, sets the right tone of involvement for the guests themselves. In short, someone they know is saying “go ahead, feel invited. Laugh, cry, applaud, and by all means enjoy!” It makes all the difference in this wedding officiant’s vast experience.

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AskDr.Linda – Dr. Linda is a multi-degree wedding officiator and expert on “all things” ceremony. With thousands of life celebration ceremonies presided, Dr. Linda adds experience to many years of formal training in public speech, and the theory and practice of celebrating life through public ceremony. A former professor and president of an university which academically and experientially equipped life celebration officiators for public service.

Private Home - Wedding Ceremony At Home - Comfortable Meets Chaos

Private Home Wedding Ceremony - A Wedding Officiators Prospective- The Clergy Network of Southern California - A home wedding ceremony can be lovely, sentimental, comfortable, to name a few positive attributes which invoke a sense of wedding day well being. Yet, as an experienced wedding officiator, I can say the “other side of the coin” must also be calculated into the overall decision to marry at a private home – Be it a parent’s, the bride’s and groom’s, sister’s, aunt’s, grandparents’, etc.

So, for the sake of argument, let’s take the “comfortable” attribute of a home wedding ceremony environment. By “flipping the coin”, “comfortable” can become “disorganized, chaotic, and dysfunctional” in short order. Why? By way of introduction let’s start with the following:

Potential Problem: In a “familiar” or “comfortable” environment, the importance of following a time schedule is often overlooked or dismissed or canceled out, as it seems to run counter to “familiar” or “comfortable”. Even the most innocent dismissal of time can be attributed to the nature of the “home”, a place where time can stand still, a haven of rest from the fast paced world outside.

Breaking The Myth:

When it comes to the notion of a "timeline" putting a damper on things, the reverse is really true, for the few hours which comprise the wedding ceremony and reception go quickly. Without the mapping of and adherence to a timeline, the most important events of the day may be sacrificed at the “altar of comfortability”. In short, this is when “comfortable” and “casual” become the twin nemeses of the “sacredness” or “seriousness” of the marriage ceremony day. Things get overlooked or cut out or forgotten, as they threaten the “feeling” of “comfortable”.

Example One - Family and friends, having been at the home before as casual visitors, find the transition to wedding guest hard to make. Something essential to the “specialness” of the day can be lost for the sake of preserving “comfortable”. Giving a set arrival time, ceremony start time, cocktail hour, reception starting time, can help family and friends to “put on” the “ wedding guest cap” in a way they might not without a timeline which delineates the valuable components of the day. Letting the day take on an unstructured “mind of its own”, can turn “comfortable” into “disorganized, chaotic and dysfunctional”. We will discuss other examples at a later blog.

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About The Author - AskDr.Linda – Dr. Linda is a multi-degree wedding officiator and expert on “all things” ceremony. With thousands of life celebration ceremonies presided, Dr. Linda adds experience to many years of formal training in public speech, and the theory and practice of celebrating life through public ceremony. A former professor and president of an university which academically and experientially equipped life celebration officiators for public service. AskDr.Linda – Dr. Linda is a multi-degree wedding officiator and expert on “all things” ceremony. With thousands of life celebration ceremonies presided, Dr. Linda adds experience to many years of formal training in public speech, and the theory and practice of celebrating life through public ceremony. A former professor and president of an university which academically and experientially equipped life celebration officiators for public service.

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