August 15, 2013 - United States - By Dr. Linda Wainwright Trott, a “Wedding
Values” Writer, Educator & Celebrity Public Speaker Officiator - Helping Wedding Professional stay true to
the idealism Intrinsic to the Wedding Industry. www.facebook.com/legallymarried & info@theclergynetwork.com
Sweet & Delicious, But Something Much More
The scrumptious wedding cake is
by Gateaux Inc. The bride and groom are
pleased with their choice. At the wedding
reception, the guests’ taste buds will be delighted with satisfaction and
pleasure. - The exceptional invoking of enjoyment
to their taste buds is certain. But, even grander is the creativity applied
by Gateaux Inc.’s exemplary baker artisans, and rightly so. But,
if one listens carefully, or thinks reflectively, there is also an unspoken
beauty that communicates itself far beyond human taste buds and digestion. Far,
but near are lovely feelings and thoughts branding the cake’s design, gifted by
its creator. Is it not plain for all to see?
Unfortunately, not widely appreciated, is this bold and influential
unseen array of “goodnesses” throughout
the whole wedding planning endeavour! These “goodnesses”
are not “playing hide and seek” with us,
but, rather, we with them. Be it bride or groom or, wedding and event
professional, wedding planning participants beware; becoming a bit jaded may be
inevitable. So “par for the course”
that one misses the “real-stuff” for
which the Wedding or Wedding Industry is made.
So, where am I going with this?
Simply, the same bride and groom who
spends hours scouting for just the right cake, or dress or head-piece is the
one who is sold short on the really
important things inherent to the Wedding Day. It is a psychological truth that a thing can be enjoyed more when it is
understood. Especially, when that “thing” is completely about what is
good, lovely and true about being married? What is material and commercial has
its allure, but, from the beginning, there are the deeper things that companion
marriage. Is there not a way for wedding professionals, no matter what
their contribution to a wedding day, help a couple along? Is it really all
about “getting the gig?” Suffice it to say, for many, “yes” would be
the answer. But, I ask, “Has it really
become all that debase?”
So what can you, or I do to bring
out the spotlight on the things that start where we can not see? Things, that
when launched, have deep effect on what we can see? So, as to not talk in riddles! Let’s apply
this to my contribution to a couple’s wedding planning experience. These brief, but few examples, are hopefully
inspiring, invoking thought and revisions in your own contribution to the
Wedding Industry.
Firstly, I see a bride and groom as persons, not as dollar signs.
They are not my “meal-ticket”.
Secondly,
I lose nothing by taking the time to help a marrying couple feel good about the
big step they are taking. I remind them of the benefits of the deeper things
influencing their decision to marry, and, how those things, once identified and
embraced, make marriage a significantly grand proposition.
Thirdly, I help them to locate these absolute values, resident in
all human beings before the first man and woman, became the first bride and
groom. These absolute values haven’t changed. However, an oblivious generation may be
unaware and un-embracing of them. - To
pick a few – faithfulness, unconditional love, kindness, forgiveness, compassion,
and others.
There is so much detail and “real –life” that I could offer, but, I
will stay brief and to the point. Hoping that you will volunteer some of what
you are doing to bring awareness about the silent and present finer things
brought over the “marriage threshold”
So, lets apply this to your contributions to the industry, and its bride and
groom customers.
Begin By Thinking About The Good, Lovely, Right & True For Your Marrying Clients
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| "Understanding Brings Fullest Enjoyment?" |
In short, your wedding and event career can be…
1. Enjoyed more, by identifying meaning and purpose, and other
things of value. Not just for a bride
and groom, but for yourself. - “Happy Wedding and Event Professional” makes
a “Happy Bride and Groom!” (Dr. Linda’s
quote)
2. Foundationally stronger because it is situated upon the “High Road”. No matter how many “under –the-table” deals between “here to day, gone tomorrow” competitors, you will thrive, not
survive.
3. Possess “future”,
because you have “sown” into the
lives of each couple. By reminding them
of what is really important within the context of your services. And, that, in such a way they will remember
you. Perhaps you were the only wedding
and event professional wearing the “human
face” of the very qualities they needed to get through a rough patch. The “kindness of kindness” should not be
underrated. The “rightness of right” is profoundly and simply just that.
4. More affluent… because, people like me, who are genuinely
captivated by “what is good, lovely,
right and true”, will want to work with you. It is so rewarding to be a career companion
with a person of “like!” Especially, when “like” is of this nature! I will be able to trust you. I will know
that you will ensure that a bride and groom derive the fullest enjoyment of
what they are building toward. If not, the “glitter of the glitz” is all they
will have when the wedding reception “party”
is over. Just those blurry few hours,
and nothing else! Enrich their wedding
planning experience, by assisting them in enriching their lives. And, if you
need a little help on “how” to better
do this, call me or e-mail me. My life
is enriched by helping you, and yours enriched by taking the step to be a
better person. And, this will make you a better Wedding and Event Professional.
Reinforce By Referring To Those With This Deeper Values Perspective
Moreover, be kind to your clients
when you refer. This also helps me
too. We are in this “Wedding
Industry” together, and we can
decide what we want the “climate” to be!
Please, when referring your clients to a Wedding Officiator, don’t
take “kick-backs” from the one to whom you are referring. Don’t
refer to a friend, knowing that they are not really good at what they do. Don’t encourage the couple to use an
in-experienced family member or friend. (This
won’t bode well for you when they do a poor job). Don’t refer to the one
with the biggest “fanfare” or the one
better at the “wine and dine!” To look good, ensure a future in the industry,
do learn about “What Makes a Stellar
Wedding Officiant”. And, since this
will take knowledge that you do not possess now, contact me. I am an expert
educator on “things ceremony”, and “things wedding officiator”.
Finally, I leave you where we
started. It is a psychological truth
that a thing can be enjoyed more when it is understood. Help a bride and groom spot the finer things wanting
to be seen. Especially, when that “thing”
is completely about what is good, lovely,
right and true about being married? What is material and commercial has its
allure, but, from the beginning, there are the deeper things that companion
marriage. As a Wedding Professional savour every moment, and, as you provide
your unique contributional services, “pay
it forward”, as a matter of conscience, and as a matter of professionalism.
It is your job and your privilege to help others see the “real values” of “Getting Married”. And, it is evident in everything lovely about
the Wedding Experience.
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About The Author - Dr. Linda Wainwright Trott - The Clergy Network - www.facebook.com/legallymarried - The Clergy Network of Southern California customizes wedding ceremony wording and marriage vows. From Hollywood Celebrity to Olympic Sport's Stars To Music Rock Legends and United State's Senator's Son, our Dr. Linda writes with the history, personality and current trends in mind. Most Recently presiding Tamra and Eddie's Reality Show Wedding for Bravo T. V. and The Real Housewives of Orange County. Now working on two Food Network Chefs marriage ceremony wording.
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