An Article about
Marriage Promise Making & Keeping!
Dear Bride or Groom, if the title
of the article makes you hesitant to read on, don’t worry, “Me” can be a good or bad thing.
In your impending marriage, it is your choice as to the kind of “Me” you
wish to be! Pre-Marital Counseling……What
about it? Well, you might be an advocate
of “Pre-Marital” counseling as it could reinforce the “green light” towards marriage. Maybe, you’re staunchly against “Pre-Marital” counseling, especially if
it leads to breaking up. Besides, it is just downright plain nosey and useless! At this article’s start, know that the government just might think they need to help you “see the light”! Let’s face
it, with consequences having actions, all people make stellar or ignorant or
innocent or disastrous choices. Some conclusions
are foreseen, while others unforeseen.
Let’s be more specific! Do you
learn from your mistakes? Perhaps, you
possess the foresight to “obey” that nagging
hunch? As it stands now, American societal
norms are complicated, unpredictable or hazily decipherable at best. On the
dark side, however, somewhat “twisted”!
Quite possibly, there is a remnant wanting to believe the best about others,
but, history has repeated itself! This can be a sad state of affairs. As it
applies to “getting married”, a
person the wiser might secretly hire a private detective to “check out” their intended! And, don’t forget the “Pre-Nuptial Agreement”! Who
is this person that you are marrying anyway?
With the predominant divorce rate, cited by newscasters, at 60
percent, where do we go next?
Does The Government Really Think That It Is Helping
Marrying Couples?
You Decide!
Realistically, at some point the
marital mishaps of so many couples do affect the innocent, the unsuspecting and the unwilling others. Note, a reported divorce rate of 60
percent is no small number! Included in the sizable grouping of affected
“others” are the Federal, State and
Local governments. So, yes, who you
marry does become the business of others!
So what is the government doing
to combat the assault? There are the governmental committees or studies on “Marriage”, special publications, even “Covenantal” marriage licenses. In
Colorado, there is the suggested legislation which will mandate “Pre-Marital” counseling for all wishing
to wed. No marriage license for you, until you make the effort to learn about successful
marriage! Behind this, is the idea that knowledge
about a thing invokes right decision making. But, does it always? And, could obligatory “Pre-Marital” counseling become a state to state trend?
About The Proposed Colorado Obligatory
Pre-Marital Counseling Idea
The Colorado law would require
10 “Pre-Marital”
counseling sessions for the
first time
marrying. To the
“second-timers” there
are
20
mandated “Pre-Marital” sessions. Lastly, to those wedding for a
third
or more times, there is the required series of
30 “Pre-Marital”
sessions. So, how is this idea faring
with people of the marrying variety?
Generally speaking, the purest proponent
of “Pre-Marital” counseling firmly
believes it to be an ideologically good move. It also has is practical advantages. Some suggesting that access to this kind of
expert knowledge gives a couple the powers to confirm their choice of marital
partner. An informed assurance brought
by learning outside subjective feelings and affections. But, also supported by right affections too! After
all, is this not the most important decision in life? Singularly powerful in its
ability to bless or burden others? Pre-empting divorce and related heartache has
it evident positives. Especially in a “Marriage Friendly” counseling atmosphere,
whereby a couple is free to talk about things. Beyond this, when couples hash
out the “red flags” before walking
the altar, this saves the courts time and money with the lessening casualties
of divorce.
For the opposed, “Stay out of my business!”! Some just prefer limited government intrusion. Other disagreements are by virtue of the
principle which promotes living life on each individual’s own terms. Then, there is the four times married news
commentator hating the idea, just because she claims to already have learned from
her past mistakes. Even if a couple is
amenable to “Pre-Marital” counseling,
they may detest state mandated sessions. Rejected is the “Good-Guy” disguise of the government, with their real intention to
make money or to control! Don’t forget the resultant “Pre-Marital” cottage industry. The smell of “money in the making” can be much like “blood in the water” to the hungry shark. In this case, of course
these players would be for state mandated “Pre-Marital”
counseling!
Bride & Groom – The Unspoken Things A
Wedding Professional May Not Say To You? – Some Thought From Dr. Linda
A horse with blinders, only views
what is in the foreground. Moved by its
rider’s signaling, what the equine does not see is still there! Wedding service providers share thoughts about
their marrying couples. Plenty have
predicted what couple will or won’t make it! A wedding vendor is without the blinders of “getting married bliss”, and can call it
rightly. If emotionally fettered couples could only see what is clearly visible
to these unfettered, what then?
I am a Wedding Officiator,
Educator, Writer & Professor. Admittedly,
my background in human behavior is a plus when working with couples setting
their sights on settling down for life. Let me share with you what I know.
Firstly, a bride’s or groom’s marriage vows shout
“This will last!” or,
“This
is doomed from the start”! Not just in
what they say, but through what they don’t say! Not only in their completed vows wording,
but during their collecting of words. Then, there is the wedding ceremony planning meeting.
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If the groom accompanies the bride
willingly, that is positive. If the groom and bride agree on most ceremony matters,
that can be a good sign. If the groom is right in there asking for help “saying
it in the best manner!” this shows interest and character. On the wedding day, if bride or groom is drunken
out-of-their mind, numbing them from the true joys of the monumental moment…
then? And so forth.
Finally, now that you know, that we know, perhaps a second or third
or fourth educated and experienced hand will put you happily on to your
marriage journeying? Certainly, learning about successful marriage is a smart
and beneficial idea! Despite popular opinion, studies seem to indicate that living
together before marriage is not the glowing determiner of one’s choice for a
life-long companion. Ask anyone on their
5th or 6th “live – in housemate”! Situating yourself for life, as a person of pleasant
character and remaining willing to learn through love’s tough or tender fixes is
something for which to aspire. Fore go
the excessive computer gaming or shopping or attending of sports rallies. Side
on the “better odds”, reconfiguring the
time before playing “Here Comes The Bride”
to the preparation needed for “marriage
blissful”! “Pre-Marital” counseling, coupled with other taken-to-heart learning
opportunities, can be wholly advantageous. Even before becoming engaged, inspire the lifelong
mindset which allows the refresher learning already known to the couple celebrating
their 50th wedding anniversary. Happy Pre-Marital Counseling!
About Dr. Linda- Wedding Officiator
& International Wedding
Ceremony Writer
Dr. Linda is a Celebrity Wedding
Officiator in Southern California.
Likewise, she is a Wedding Vows and Ceremony Writer, Director &
Trainer of Wedding Officiants. To hire
Dr. Linda or one of her Professional Celebrity Wedding Officiator’s for your wedding
ceremony, or to write your marriage vows –
info@theclergynetwork.com –
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