Friday, March 14, 2014

Wedding Ceremony Mythology: Some Things Just Need To Stay As They Are! By Celebrity Wedding Officiator Dr. Linda

At the wedding ceremony rehearsal, the maid-of-honour says, “Hey, I think that it would be really cool for the wedding officiator to stand with their back to the wedding guests! Don’t you!”  At first, this suggestion seems to defy convention, and provide an interesting option to the marrying couple.  Even gives the illusion of diminishing the perceived traditional dominance of the officiator in a standard pose and positioning. Without thinking it through, the bride and groom agree, and arrange accordingly. This is great, bride and groom will really stand out, the wedding guests will see them better……! So, what’s wrong with this?

Reason # 1 – This Wedding Officiator Says, “STOP!” – The Foreground Is Called The Foreground For A Reason!

Who is in the foreground will more naturally stand out in the pictures. This is also true for the live audience. Especially, when, the wedding officiator is on the same level as the guests. And, if there is not much difference in the elevation between the officiant’s position and the marrying couple.  See this publicly posted picture of such a configuration.

Do You Think Reason # 1 Is Valid?

Dr. Linda is a Celebrity Wedding Officiator and Writer. She is a Wedding Ceremony Trendsetter.  She and her team of Wedding Ceremony Writers & Professional Officiators write and officiate Designer Wedding Ceremonies in Southern California. Shall we help you write your marriage vows? Need a wedding officiator?  -

Monday, March 10, 2014

Say What? Who Is Listening To The Wedding Ceremony Anyway? Marriage Ceremony Levity Or Truth?

“Sorry that I missed the wedding ceremony….. I got stuck on the freeway. Wow, there was a really bad accident! But, glad to make it to the reception!” 

A cousin of mine once said, “A good speech should be like a woman's skirt: long enough to cover the subject and short enough to create interest!” Have you been to a wedding ceremony lately? I have, in fact, at them every week.  For the sake of disclosure, I am a Celebrity Wedding Ceremony Writer. Now that this is revealed here comes a polite but honest discussion about the wedding ceremony “goings on”.  Truth-be-told, wedding ceremony words are often boring, terribly written, rambling or inappropriate, and so forth. Not ours, of course, but the one that I read recently from another officiant unrelated to our Clergy & Wedding Officiants Network.

Most people do not care to speak publicly. And, when, a bride and groom, something about this fear or disinterest translates into disaster. Is there a societal expectation which assures a well presented wedding ceremony? I wish there was! And, if there were, so much of what traffics itself as a well-written marriage ceremony wording would be banned, and the seller jailed for indecent verbal exposure! Seems harsh, but really, if you were able to comment unfettered as “Anonymous” what would you really say?

Recently, a client presented me with local wedding officiator’s ceremony wording. This officiator was not with our group, as we custom write each of our ceremony events with the clients.  When reading this officiant's ceremony, there were more than a few concerns:

1.   The text was devoid of sectional “Headings”.  Important for the one reading to assist in the flow of presentation. Without “Headings” it is far too easy for the reading officiator to miss sections, or to import the wrong feeling to a section. Also, important when working toward the writing of the final ceremony draft. This, because continuity and flow for reading is easier to calibrate.

2.   The ideas presented in the text were out-of-order. Honouring the deceased groom’s mother toward the end of the ceremony. And, recognizing the couples’ children at an awkward juncture.

3.   There were no “Transitional Statements”. These are necessary, so that what was said before in an adjoining section, coalesces with the next section’s introduction. It also prepares the presenting officiator for the next segment, as to verbal cadence and feeling. Transitional Statements also have other important reasons.

4.   There was no “Sign-posting” as to who said what or whom was being addressed.

5.   It was not paginated for oral presentation in any way. Including as to the size of the print. The print should be larger in the officiator’s presentation draft.  This assists in reading without omission.   Also, the sentences were not “double-spaced” or sections spaced properly.  This also acts in prevention of missing a word or sentence or segment.

6.   The wording was redundant at best. A good ceremony takes hours to write. Remember my cousin’s quote at the start of this article.

In short, as a former Speech Professor, currently a Wedding Officiator, the received officiant’s text was a disaster waiting to happen. In fact, my client was confused.  And, this is why this couple was now my client.

Why Does This Happen? Should You Really Care?

Either people don’t know any better or don’t expect any more.  Let’s face it; the wedding ceremony has become a formality, something that people hope to get through! But, say it is not so! The words of a wedding ceremony should be at least as beautiful as the cake, the bridal gown, and anything else of beauty on the wedding day. The poor quality wedding ceremony wording and presentation does not need to be normative. But, in Southern California it is very usual occurrence.

So, I ask…. What are your suggestions on making the wedding ceremony more interesting? Should Internet Wedding Officiator Ordination groups be banned? (These groups do not require Wedding Officiants to be experts, but profit through ordaining anyone!) Should professional writers write the wedding ceremonies, and the officiants simply learn them? Should Wedding Officiants’ be certified in “Public Speech”?  

Let’s Talk About Making The Wedding Ceremony A Public Joy Again - Dr. Linda – Professional Wedding Ceremony Writer & Celebrity Wedding Officiator –

Friday, February 14, 2014

Getting Married & Wedding Ceremony Facebook - LegallyMarried Begins Largest "Destination Lovely Motto" Wall at

It Begins on Valentines Day! Leave Your Getting Married 2014 ...

"Destination Lovely Motto"   LegallyMarried's Facebook

Join in building the world's largest "Destination Lovely Motto" Wall!

What Is a "Destination Lovely Motto" Internet Shout Out? 

Back in the Day, there was the "Chain Letter". This was a letter started by one person, given to another, who gave it to another friend that passed it on to someone else and so forth. A single letter could be read by conceivable thousands. Today's version of this old tradition is an Internet "Shout Out" through a "Retweet" or "Share". And, ours is the "Getting Married" version of the same. So, we selected a bride-to-be, who started our "Share" off.  - Her name is Lisa.  Today is your opportunity to send a "Shout Out" to the Internet world about your "Getting Married Motto". It's your turn to make an impression on other aspiring marrying couples! What is your "Marriage Philosophy?"

Destination Lovely Motto Wall Link

Thursday, February 13, 2014

Hiring A Wedding Officiator is Like Trying on a Comfortable Pair of Jeans - By Celebrity California Wedding Officiator, Dr. Linda

Our LegallyMarried & The Clergy Network phone rang. On the dialing end was an officiator shopping bride. What was this bride's deal breaker? Would she know it was him or her when she met them? Perhaps, she would have a "good feeling". Definitely, not wanting a novice or someone without a background check? Right? Perhaps, it was all about price? Certainly, she wanted to hire a reliable one! Now, saying that, probably our most popular comment by a marrying couple is, "We are looking for just the right fit"! After 24 years, one could imagine how many times this was the recurring descriptive for filling the officiator position.

Now, its 2014, you are getting married. Is this your descriptive too? Then, this image, from the 1st ever Wedding Ceremony Art Gallery by a bunch of Celebrity Officiators, is my initial contribution. The Pin is at: But, there is more, if you are searching for 'Just the right fit" in a wedding officiator, let's talk. I would like to write a collaborative blog article with tons of brides about "Just the right fit". I have already written on this before, but, this is 2014! Let's start fresh. What does it mean when you say, “I am looking for just the right fit??” Regards, Dr. Linda

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Valentines Day: "Almost Getting Engaged" Party - The Tradition of The Promise Ring For The Modern Couple

It’s Valentine’s Day: Someday He Will Propose, But Not Today
Does Anyone Give Promise Rings Anymore?

By Celebrity Wedding Officiator, Dr. Linda
(Director of Engagements and Proposals)

Planning A Valentine’s Day – “Almost Getting Engaged” Party or Getaway!

He is not going to propose this year.  And, it is o.k. with you. Your relationship has long since transitioned from newish to a daily public fact. Never-before-things say, “This is certainly it!”  Yet, it is not quite right to say, “Yes” for life.  But, those closest are expecting the “big announcement” of marriage. It has been my experience as Director of Engagement & Proposals at LegallyMarried and The Clergy Network, to meet couples wanting something significant “in-between”.  And, Valentine’s Day seems the best holiday of the year to take the next step.  But, is “Engagement” the only next move? There is dating, courting, engagement and marriage, right? 

Back in the day, there was a remedy for that “Almost committed for life feeling”. This “rite of passage” was a bonafide substantive gesture that promised a future together.  This gift and a statement said, “Ours is not a passing fancy”, or, “Until someone better comes along”.   They called it a “Promise Ring”. It wasn’t only the not-so-gainfully unemployed teenagers that utilized this method of declaring affection. Those a bit older might have done so too!

Go For It - Throwing An “Almost Getting Engaged” Party or “Almost Getting Engaged” Dinner

So, what does this mean to your Valentine’s Day? Well, for the comic couple, a Valentine’s Day get-together for the purposes of “Almost Getting Engaged”, the giving of a promise and ring, has a certain humorous appeal.  And, at an “Almost Getting Engaged” romantic dinner, for the serious minded couple, there is intentional charm, and, a really significant advancing of their relationship.  As a wedding officiator, I have conducted the simple, but tearfully joyful, “I promise to get engaged someday soon” ceremony before!  After the vow is given, the casual relationship is in the distance of love’s rear view mirror. And, with the gifting of a “Promise Ring or Necklace”, “Becoming Engaged” is in the not-so-distant horizon. The “Almost Getting Engaged” vow is for the “in-betweeners” needing to take the next step.  For some, it is a psychological necessity.  For example, while setting the momentum toward “Engagement”, it focuses each one’s thoughts on more seriously preparing for marriage together. Or, it might even slow things down to a crawl. Which, until a couple is really ready to “get engaged”, may be a good thing! In any event, drawing the romantic line in the sand on Valentine’s Day could be the best thing that you did for your relationship.

Ready To Exchange “Almost Getting Engaged” Vows? Maybe A Promise Ring?

So, if you are there, time to make a “Promise to Promise”?  Think about it for this Valentine’s Day.  In just your favorite setting, a gift and a “Promise to Promise”!  Share your vows with us, or, ask us to write the “Promise to Promise” Vows.  Happy Almost!  Sincerely, Dr. Linda - Director of Engagements & Proposals at Legally Married & The Clergy Network.   To find out about our “Almost Getting Engaged” Vows writers –

Tuesday, February 4, 2014

Starbucks Wedding Ceremony - "In the Presence of These Baristas, I Now Pronounce You Husband and Wife!" By Celebrity Wedding Officiator Dr. Linda

Grandma, Grandpa & Their Starbucks Wedding

A Story Only Hours Old

What Kind Of Celebrity Wedding Officiator Weds A Couple In A California Starbucks?

A wedding officiator can be interesting. Along with skill and experience, perhaps, a little “free spirited” tempered by dedication and discipline. After all “free spirit” makes him or her creative, and the discipline makes them reliable.  With a “flexible” soul, a good officiator would preside the most quirky to the most predictably practical ceremony themes. And, that is exactly the type that one looks for when you are a grandmother and grandfather eloping to Starbucks.

Today, the same Celebrity Wedding Officiator, whose co-officiator was once actor Rob Lowe, dashed off to the Orange County Clerk to pick up a marriage license.  And, from there, then off to a local Southern California Starbucks. Dr. Brian waited to meet a very much in a hurry grandmother bride and a grandfather groom. For this celebrity officiator, this was not his first Starbucks’ wedding.  This grandmother bride, taking a short absence from her pregnant daughter-in-law’s bedside, was not at Starbucks for a frappuccino! All she wanted to hear was “I Do” and “I now pronounce that you husband and wife….!” Perhaps, this couple would not have chosen a Starbucks in which to marry, but “Life Happened”!  With a daughter-in-law’s delicate pregnancy, simple but profound was the order. None-the-less, our celebrity officiator found himself marrying a very appreciative couple. They didn’t plan their wedding for a year. No, they didn’t spend thousands of dollars, but, their chosen priority to be married before the grand baby arrived, meant more.  So, in this crowded Starbucks, to grandma and grandpa, a moment so private, that they didn’t even kiss in the presence of coffee drinking strangers.  It was a sacred but brief ceremony at Starbucks for these two, and our officiator treated it with the love and respect it deserved.  Soon, this couple will be helping to change lots of diapers, but as a married grandmother and grandfather!

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If you were planning a Starbucks Wedding how would you decorate? What would you wear? Who would be your witnesses? What music would be played? Get Creative With Dr. Linda

Want a Starbucks wedding ceremony on a lunch break?  Going into the hospital for a serious surgery, but want to be wed first?  Or, like this couple, wanting to be married before the baby or grand baby is born? Call us at LegallyMarried & The Clergy Network.  Perhaps the same wedding officiator who presided The Real Housewives of Orange County Bravo T.V. wedding or issued Lakers Cobi Bryant’s marriage license will be the one saying, “In the presence of these Baristas, I now pronounce you husband and wife!” - - - 

Thursday, January 30, 2014 - First Ever Celebrity Wedding Officiator & Wedding Ceremony Writers On-line Free Art Gallery - Hire A Creative Wedding Officiator Today!

United States - Pin from the world's first ever Wedding Officiator & Wedding Ceremony Photoshop On-line Art Gallery. Celebrity Wedding Officiators and Writers try their hand at Photoshop, creating one-of-a-kind images to depict wedding customs and traditions, or ideas, sentiments and thoughts about getting married.  Its free! By Dr. Linda, a Celebrity Wedding Officiator and her team! Got ideas for a new image? Want a Celebrity Wedding Officiator to put together an original creation for our  Wedding Art Gallery? Its free! Submit your ideas here!

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For 24 years, selected by Hollywood, NFL, AFL, NBA, United States Senate, etc. star marrying couples to write and preside their high profile wedding ceremonies.  Stars from "Law & Order", "Burn Notice", "White Collar", "St Elmo's Fire", "Reno 911" and many others, have asked us to help them with a marriage ceremony.  Most recently, "The Real Housewives of Orange County Bravo T.V. Wedding" and "The Food Network Star Chefs Wedding".  Booking for 2014 weddings in California. -