Friday, August 16, 2013

Jaded No More - The True North of Wedding Planning Idealism- The Bride, the Groom, the Wedding Professional & the Genuine Stuff

August 15, 2013 - United States - By Dr. Linda Wainwright Trott, a “Wedding Values” Writer, Educator & Celebrity Public Speaker Officiator - Helping Wedding Professional stay true to the idealism Intrinsic to the Wedding Industry. &

Sweet & Delicious, But Something Much More 

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The scrumptious wedding cake is by Gateaux Inc.  The bride and groom are pleased with their choice.  At the wedding reception, the guests’ taste buds will be delighted with satisfaction and pleasure. - The exceptional invoking of enjoyment to their taste buds is certain. But, even grander is the creativity applied by Gateaux Inc.’s exemplary baker artisans, and rightly so.   But, if one listens carefully, or thinks reflectively, there is also an unspoken beauty that communicates itself far beyond human taste buds and digestion. Far, but near are lovely feelings and thoughts branding the cake’s design, gifted by its creator. Is it not plain for all to see?  Unfortunately, not widely appreciated, is this bold and influential unseen array of “goodnesses” throughout the whole wedding planning endeavour!  These “goodnesses” are not “playing hide and seek” with us, but, rather, we with them. Be it bride or groom or, wedding and event professional, wedding planning participants beware; becoming a bit jaded may be inevitable. So “par for the course” that one misses the “real-stuff” for which the Wedding or Wedding Industry is made.

So, where am I going with this? Simply,  the same bride and groom who spends hours scouting for just the right cake, or dress or head-piece is the one who is sold short on the really important things inherent to the Wedding Day. It is a psychological truth that a thing can be enjoyed more when it is understood. Especially, when that “thing” is completely about what is good, lovely and true about being married? What is material and commercial has its allure, but, from the beginning, there are the deeper things that companion marriage. Is there not a way for wedding professionals, no matter what their contribution to a wedding day, help a couple along? Is it really all about “getting the gig?”  Suffice it to say, for many, “yes” would be the answer. But, I ask, “Has it really become all that debase?”

"Married and Loving It" 
By Dr. Linda
So what can you, or I do to bring out the spotlight on the things that start where we can not see? Things, that when launched, have deep effect on what we can see?  So, as to not talk in riddles! Let’s apply this to my contribution to a couple’s wedding planning experience.  These brief, but few examples, are hopefully inspiring, invoking thought and revisions in your own contribution to the Wedding Industry.

Firstly, I see a bride and groom as persons, not as dollar signs. They are not my “meal-ticket”.

 Secondly, I lose nothing by taking the time to help a marrying couple feel good about the big step they are taking. I remind them of the benefits of the deeper things influencing their decision to marry, and, how those things, once identified and embraced, make marriage a significantly grand proposition.

Thirdly, I help them to locate these absolute values, resident in all human beings before the first man and woman, became the first bride and groom. These absolute values haven’t changed.  However, an oblivious generation may be unaware and un-embracing of them. - To pick a few – faithfulness, unconditional love, kindness, forgiveness, compassion, and others.

There is so much detail and “real –life” that I could offer, but, I will stay brief and to the point. Hoping that you will volunteer some of what you are doing to bring awareness about the silent and present finer things brought over the “marriage threshold” So, lets apply this to your contributions to the industry, and its bride and groom customers.  

Begin By Thinking About The Good, Lovely, Right & True For Your Marrying Clients 

"Understanding Brings Fullest Enjoyment?"
In short, your wedding and event career can be…

1. Enjoyed more, by identifying meaning and purpose, and other things of value.  Not just for a bride and groom, but for yourself.  - “Happy Wedding and Event Professional” makes a “Happy Bride and Groom!” (Dr. Linda’s quote)

2. Foundationally stronger because it is situated upon the “High Road”.  No matter how many “under –the-table” deals between “here to day, gone tomorrow” competitors, you will thrive, not survive. 

3. Possess “future”, because you have “sown” into the lives of each couple.  By reminding them of what is really important within the context of your services.  And, that, in such a way they will remember you.  Perhaps you were the only wedding and event professional wearing the “human face” of the very qualities they needed to get through a rough patch. The “kindness of kindness” should not be underrated.  The “rightness of right” is profoundly and simply just that.

4. More affluent… because, people like me, who are genuinely captivated by “what is good, lovely, right and true”, will want to work with you.  It is so rewarding to be a career companion with a person of “like!”  Especially, when “like” is of this nature! I will be able to trust you. I will know that you will ensure that a bride and groom derive the fullest enjoyment of what they are building toward. If not, the glitter of the glitz” is all they will have when the wedding reception “party” is over.  Just those blurry few hours, and nothing else!  Enrich their wedding planning experience, by assisting them in enriching their lives. And, if you need a little help on “how” to better do this, call me or e-mail me.  My life is enriched by helping you, and yours enriched by taking the step to be a better person. And, this will make you a better Wedding and Event Professional.  

Reinforce By Referring To Those With This Deeper Values Perspective  

Moreover, be kind to your clients when you refer.  This also helps me too.  We are in this “Wedding
Wedding Officiators, Marriage Minsters
Wedding Clergy, Justice-of-the-Peace
together, and we can decide what we want the “climate” to be! Please, when referring your clients to a Wedding Officiator, don’t take kick-backs” from the one to whom you are referring. Don’t refer to a friend, knowing that they are not really good at what they do.  Don’t encourage the couple to use an in-experienced family member or friend. (This won’t bode well for you when they do a poor job). Don’t refer to the one with the biggest “fanfare” or the one better at the “wine and dine!”  To look good, ensure a future in the industry, do learn about “What Makes a Stellar Wedding Officiant”.  And, since this will take knowledge that you do not possess now, contact me. I am an expert educator on “things ceremony”, and “things wedding officiator”.

Finally, I leave you where we started. It is a psychological truth that a thing can be enjoyed more when it is understood.  Help a bride and groom spot the finer things wanting to be seen. Especially, when that “thing” is completely about what is good, lovely, right and true about being married? What is material and commercial has its allure, but, from the beginning, there are the deeper things that companion marriage. As a Wedding Professional savour every moment, and, as you provide your unique contributional services, “pay it forward”, as a matter of conscience, and as a matter of professionalism. It is your job and your privilege to help others see the “real values” of “Getting Married”.  And, it is evident in everything lovely about the Wedding Experience.


About The Author -  Dr. Linda Wainwright Trott - The Clergy Network -      - The Clergy Network of Southern California customizes wedding ceremony wording and marriage vows. From Hollywood Celebrity to Olympic Sport's Stars To Music Rock Legends and United State's Senator's Son, our Dr. Linda writes with the history, personality and current trends in mind. Most Recently presiding Tamra and Eddie's Reality Show Wedding for Bravo T. V. and The Real Housewives of Orange County. Now working on two Food Network Chefs marriage ceremony wording. 

TCN, also provides professional Wedding Officiators, Marriage Ministers, Civil Wedding Officiators, Wedding Clergy, Non-Denominational Wedding Officiants, and others to perform the marriage ceremony. Orange County California Marriage License Issuance on day of the wedding, at wedding rehearsal or evening or weekend appointments also available.  To the Southern California wedding and event planner or wedding coordinator, Dr. Linda or The Clergy Network has been their professional referral for 24 years!

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1 comment:

Somchit Srimoon said...

I think you have a lot to say and I agree with it fully.

Too often we meet people in the wedding Industry who really are here for the short term.

It is up to us to keep the standards up and work only with those that are excellent at their job.

Thanks for the advise and reminder why we really do what re do.