The Wedding Ceremony
Temperament Series
By Dr. Linda
Wainwright Trott
(Celebrity Wedding Officiator)
(Celebrity Wedding Officiator)
Identifying The Faux From The Genuine
“Say What?”
At a recent wedding professionals’
event, several Event Planners joked about one of the local Wedding Officiators attending
that night. “He’s such a fake”, was
one of the assessments. Not to mention braggart, and a few other choice
descriptions. They weren’t fooled, and they did not recommend that person’s services. Also, at the same party, several other
Wedding Planners were chatting about their mutual removal of a few local Wedding Officiators from their respective
Wedding Venue referral lists.
But, You Are A Bride – How Are You Supposed To Know
Who Is The Genuine
Article?
For the marrying couple, how do
they navigate the crowd of novice or illegitimate “Wedding Officiators”?
Frankly, this is a chore that they should not need to engage. Oh, for
the good ole days, when this title and the role were admired, and the aspiring
officiator had to pay their dues. There
were real societal expectations, including stringent given training
requirements. But, with the Internet, anyone, and I mean anyone can become an
officiator. Thus the beginning of this
series on, “Wedding Ceremony GPS Required”. I can do this because, I am a genuine
career Wedding Officiator with multiple academic degrees, a professor of officiators,
and probably the most experienced in the Southern California area. There is nothing
“faux” about the years, effort and
money invested in my officiator education!
A Good Information Series, like this one,A Wedding Ceremony GPS
There is a lot to talk about, so more series articles to
come. Not in any particular order, this
is just one of the things a bride should rally around when starting the
officiator selection process.
Let’s Start You Off In
The Right Direction –
Turning on The Wedding Ceremony GPS
Turning on The Wedding Ceremony GPS
1. Be concerned if a prospective
Wedding Officiator is not asking you to explain your vision of your wedding
ceremony. He or She should be asking you
to define the words and ideas being stated.
For Example:
“I am Spiritual” said
the bride to the Wedding Officiator.”
As a University trained Wedding Officiator, I should be
thinking….. O.K., really, what does it mean to her to be spiritual? If the officiator doesn’t ask for “spiritual” to be explained, or perhaps,
define it, it means they are disinterested.
Or, that they simply don’t
care. Or, they think they know what
you mean. Or, they just don’t want to
spend the time crafting ceremony wording which has the couple’s “personal meaning” in mind. “Spiritual”
is not a simple thing, and it needs to be parsed.
Conclusion: As
a Professional Wedding Officiator, I ask the bride and groom to define words
and ideas. Before, they have even booked
my services, I see the “persons”, not
the “dollar signs”. Asking for explanations, it is how I navigate
what to suggest. It is how I prove my
interest in them. It is how I show them
that I am skilled in what they need.
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About The Author - Dr. Linda Wainwright Trott - The Clergy Network - www.facebook.com/legallymarried - The Clergy Network of Southern California writes custom wedding ceremony wording and marriage vows. From Hollywood Celebrity to Olympic Sport's Stars To Music Rock Legends and United State's Senator's Son, our Dr. Linda writes with the history, personality and current trends in mind. Most Recently presiding Tamra and Eddie's Reality Show Wedding for Bravo and The Real Housewives of Orange County. TCN, also provides professional Wedding Officiators, Marriage Ministers, Civil Wedding Officiators, Wedding Clergy, Non-Denominational Wedding Officiants, and others to perform the marriage ceremony. Orange County California Marriage License Issuance on day of the wedding, at wedding rehearsal or evening or weekend appointments also available. To the Southern California wedding and event planner or wedding coordinator, Dr. Linda or The Clergy Network has been their professional referral for 24 years!
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