It’s Valentine’s Day: Someday He Will Propose, But Not Today
Does Anyone Give Promise Rings Anymore?
(Director of Engagements and Proposals)
Planning A Valentine’s Day – “Almost Getting Engaged” Party or Getaway!
He is not going
to propose this year. And, it is o.k.
with you. Your relationship has long since transitioned from newish to a daily public
fact. Never-before-things say, “This is certainly it!” Yet, it is not quite right to say, “Yes” for life. But, those closest are expecting the “big announcement” of marriage. It has
been my experience as Director of Engagement & Proposals at LegallyMarried
and The Clergy Network, to meet couples wanting something significant “in-between”. And, Valentine’s Day seems the best holiday of
the year to take the next step. But, is “Engagement” the only next move? There is
dating, courting, engagement and marriage, right?
Back in the day,
there was a remedy for that “Almost committed
for life feeling”. This “rite of
passage” was a bonafide substantive gesture that promised a future together. This gift and a statement said, “Ours is not a passing fancy”, or, “Until
someone better comes along”. They called it a “Promise Ring”. It wasn’t only the not-so-gainfully unemployed teenagers
that utilized this method of declaring affection. Those a bit older might have
done so too!
Go For It - Throwing An “Almost Getting
Engaged” Party or “Almost Getting Engaged” Dinner
So, what does
this mean to your Valentine’s Day? Well, for the comic couple, a Valentine’s
Day get-together for the purposes of “Almost
Getting Engaged”, the giving of a promise and ring, has a certain humorous appeal. And, at an “Almost Getting Engaged” romantic dinner, for the serious minded
couple, there is intentional charm, and, a really significant advancing of their
relationship. As a wedding officiator, I
have conducted the simple, but tearfully joyful, “I promise to get engaged someday soon” ceremony before! After the vow is given, the casual relationship is in the distance
of love’s rear view mirror. And, with the gifting of a “Promise Ring or Necklace”, “Becoming
Engaged” is in the not-so-distant horizon. The “Almost Getting Engaged” vow is for the “in-betweeners” needing to take the next step. For some, it is a psychological necessity. For example, while setting the momentum toward
“Engagement”, it focuses each one’s thoughts on more seriously preparing for
marriage together. Or, it might even slow things down to a crawl. Which, until
a couple is really ready to “get engaged”,
may be a good thing! In any event, drawing the romantic line in the sand on Valentine’s Day could be the best
thing that you did for your relationship.
Ready To Exchange “Almost Getting Engaged” Vows? Maybe A Promise Ring?
So, if you are
there, time to make a “
Promise to Promise”? Think about it for this Valentine’s Day. In just your favorite setting, a gift and a
“Promise to Promise”! Share your vows with us, or, ask us to write
the “Promise to Promise” Vows. Happy
Almost!
Sincerely, Dr. Linda - Director of Engagements & Proposals at Legally
Married & The Clergy Network. To
find out about our “
Almost Getting
Engaged” Vows writers –
info@theclergynetwork.com
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